We are Christians, of course we are nice to everyone! There are few members of our congregations who would say that they are not welcoming and nice to ALL people who want to come to “our” church. The kids in our youth groups would say the exact same thing because that’s how we raised them.… Continue reading We are all welcoming…but not affirming
Those of us in the United Methodist church have had a hard couple of weeks. In the last week of February delegates traveled from all over the world to meet in St. Louis for a special session of General Conference to decide the church’s stance on LGBTQ+ ordination and marriage. If you have paid any… Continue reading Moving Forward
I read this book at the end of last year, and if you have had any ministry conversations with me, I have probably mentioned it to you. If you are in ministry right now, and especially a United Methodist (pastor or laity) I HIGHLY recommend this book! Tod Bolsinger, the author, connects the Lewis and… Continue reading Leave the Canoes Behind
Earlier this summer I had one of my past “youth group kids” reach out to me. This person is no longer a kid, but an adult with a family and a career. We have kept track of each other on social media, but haven’t actually spoken in 16 years. She was going through some tough… Continue reading Life After Youth Group. Two YA perspectives.
If I have said this once, I have said this a MILLION time to pastors and churches. Millennials tend to not be connected to your church because of your worship services! Not Safe for Church explains that the model of “Worship Plus Two” from the 1990s isn’t working any more. No longer can you expect… Continue reading Not Safe For Church: Fifth Commandment: Thou Shall Learn How We Roll: Create New Entry Points
I think most of us have experienced one time or another, feeling like an outsider, inside a church. If you haven’t experienced it yourself, maybe you have had a conversation with someone who doesn’t feel like they are welcomed. You know, we can’t have “them” in the church, they wear jeans, have tattoos, or have… Continue reading Not Safe for Church: Fourth Commandment-Thou Shall Check Yourself before You Wreck Yourself. Provide inclusive worship and Bible study.
Boldness is a key in transformative ministry. In order for a church to be bold, they must have courage and confidence to step out of what is comfortable and take a risk. Humans naturally fear what they don’t know, so this is a difficult move for churches. No one wants to hurt anyone else’s feelings,… Continue reading Not Safe for Church Third Commandment: Thou Shall Not Trip: Discuss Taboo Subjects